It can hard to say “no” at someone’s wedding. It’s their special day, and they’re only going to have it once, so you don’t want to ruin it. I think that’s why we let brides and grooms get away with so much.
Can you fly out to this island? Sure. Can you spend a month’s rent on this dress you will only wear once? Absolutely. Can you spend five minutes talking about how great I am? You got it.
But there has to be a line somewhere. Only so far you are willing to travel. Only so much you are willing to pay for a dress. Only so many nice things you can say about Derek and Becky. They know what they did! They made me travel and pay for stuff I didn’t want. The jerks…